How you want to deal with your sweet cravings depends on how you crave them. Some people must have them every day; others want them only at times of stress; up to half of women who crave sweets do so on the days before their periods. I notice that I crave sweets only after I have had them. That is, if I eat a piece of confectionery, I want one the next day. If I don’t eat any for a couple of days, I won’t crave it. Probably many other patterns exist too.
There is evidence that sweets can be incorporated into a healthy diet without wreaking havoc on weight control. In Montreal, researchers took a group of people with diabetes the very people who are usually taught to avoid sugary sweets at all costs and randomly divided them into two groups. One group got the usual nutritional advice; the people in the other group were taught to allow 10 per cent of their daily calories to come from sugary treats. After 6 months, the sweets eaters ate fewer calories and gained less weight than the group who got the usual teaching. So it can be done. But you have learn to plan around your sweets eating the same way you plan around all your other dietary goals. If you don’t, and just hope for the best, then when you do succumb to your cravings (which is almost inevitable), you will be adding sweet treats on top of your full diet, and that inevitably causes weight gain.
I find that most of my patients do best when they include sweet foods in most of their meals. At breakfast, you might try peanut butter on your toast. Eat fruits at snack times and plan on having a dessert after lunch or dinner. In all my meal plans, I have included some sweets every day. The exception is the 30-gram Counting Carbohydrates Diet, where the carbohydrate limit is too low to include more than a single sweet on most days.
Try to have the sweet when you are at home, where you have arranged choices that you can feel good about. Try not to eat desserts when you eat out. Restaurant servings of sweets, like all their servings of foods, are much too large. For most people, providing sweets as part of a scheduled meal or snack reduces cravings at other times. However, those extracurricular cravings will still come to most Sweets Eaters. When do you have most of your cravings? Most Sweets Eaters have cravings in the afternoon or evening. Researchers at MIT have also shown that many Sweets Eaters and other carb cravers tend to get their cravings at the same, predictable times each day. This is where your food diary will come in very handy. Find out when you are most likely to crave sweets and then figure out how to satisfy your urge in a way that allows you to feel good about yourself and your weight.
When you get a craving for sweets, take a minute to think about where it’s coming from. Are you stressed? Depressed? Lonely? Angry? These are common reasons I hear from my patients. Consider trying some other way to deal with your craving. Exercise is an excellent way to cope with many of these feelings. See if you can take a walk, a bike ride, an exercise class. If you still have the craving after the exercise, by all means eat a treat at least you will have burned some extra calories.
One of the patients I’ve told you about, Diane, came to my office not long ago, glowing with triumph. She had been tormented by cravings for sweets late at night, right before bed. She tried fruit, gum, even sugar-free sweets. Nothing worked except chocolate. Still, she didn’t like eating the chocolate right before bed. I had encouraged her to try exercise, and that hadn’t worked either. She recognized that the craving came from a bad feeling she was having, but she couldn’t figure out what she really wanted. Finally, it occurred to her that maybe she was lonely. The kids were in bed, the news on TV was all bad, she was tired, but this feeling, this longing for company kept her from going to bed. So instead of eating chocolate, she started calling her sister, also her best friend, when she felt this hunger at night. It worked, and she hadn’t eaten a snack at night in more than 3 weeks. She felt empowered. She felt good.
When you get the craving for sweets, choose a sweet you can eat and still face yourself in the mirror later. Of course, that means not overeating. So, no matter which diet you are on, choose a sweet that’s low in calories. If you are on a fat-counting diet, choose one that is low in fats. If you are on a carbohydrate-counting diet, you’re going to have a hard time getting any variety into your sweet treats, because most sweets are carbohydrates. Still, it can be done, and I have some tips below just for you.
You might think that a taste of what you crave is not going to be enough. You will be surprised. Sweets cravings, like many food cravings, are mediated through your mouth and its taste equipment. Your mouth has no ability to quantify how much you are eating. It only knows whether you are eating or not, so when you choose to give yourself the treat of your dreams, you can probably get away with really satisfying that craving with a much smaller serving than you are used to.
My sister Shelley loves McDonald’s McFlurries. There have been times in her life when she had to have one every day. But she discovered that she could order a small one and it was just as satisfying as a large. And more recently, there are even days when she can take a few spoonfuls and then throw the rest out, because she’s satisfied. Sweets may be the hardest food to incorporate into a rational diet, but if you are a Sweets Eater, it’s important to take on that challenge.
After all, it’s unlikely that your preference will change, so you have to figure out a way to live with it if you want to manage your weight. The world we live in makes just saying no an unrealistic plan for those of us who have a love affair with sweets. I’ve included a list of a few of the millions of sweet treats you might consider. Here are the qualities I look for in a treat.
• The treat should be low in calories.
• It can be purchased in small snack-size amounts.
• It comes in a form that allows you to easily understand and consume only the amount you want for example, calorie counts that allow the snack to be divided into easily understood quantities, for example, the whole bar or this many pieces.
• It’s something that you like, but not something you need to binge on; if you know you can’t eat chocolate in moderation, don’t buy chocolate.