Sex Appeal!

 

 Everything you do to improve your general appeal will increase your ‘sex appeal’. While ‘sex appeal’ lies in the eye of the ‘beholder’ and you are the most important ‘beholder’

Three suggestions
1. Visual assists: Do everything you can to improve your appearance and develop an easygoing’ cool’ attitude. Present yourself gracefully and elegantly at every moment of your life be it social or otherwise. Pay attention to your posture because it is the foundation of your attitude. It is from here that everything else comes forth. Read the article on ‘posture’ carefully and do whatever is necessary to correct your posture and appear poised. Remember this: Being poised is being ‘easily flowing’ in movement. It’s like a beautiful ‘melody’ in motion that’s what is being ‘elegant’. Be aware of your body language and posture, they go hand in hand. ‘Practice’ and ‘self awareness’ is the key word!

 Pay attention to your facial expression as well and develop an ‘alive’ warm’ look in your eyes and softness around your mouth. You do this by being aware of your expression at all times and thinking calm happy thoughts. Our facial expression posture and poise all work together and are ‘interlinked’ Poise and posture cannot be all that ‘melody’ or ‘poetry’ in motion if it is artificial, stiff and forced. Zero in on the article that has suggestions to improve your posture and poise.

 An observation I would like to share with you, I have seen this happening at social functions especially at so called ‘high society dos’! To mention one such incident, at one such party that I was invited to I was sad to see this come from a person I have admired for a long time. She was someone I looked up too and admired until I saw her at this party in person. She is a famous person, in the film/music industry. I had never met her in person and I wish it had remained that way. Here she was at this ‘party’ and that is the day she fell ‘flat on her face’ in my eyes! Why did you ask? Well for one she was drunk to her ‘eye balls’, she had too much makeup on, and was loud, aggressive and annoying … she had neither poise nor elegance, nada!

 According to my findings I have seen that some women especially from among ‘the rich and the . famous’ neither have natural posture nor poise. Most of the time it is forced, artificial and unnatural. This is easily detected if you just observe them for a few minutes. They love to make an ‘entrance’ ‘impressive’ and all that jazz but after a few cocktails there isn’t even a semblance of ‘poise or posture ‘ its embarrassing to watch these people! They eat too much, laugh too loud, talk too loud, they hug and kiss everybody they meet as if they are ‘so happy’ to see each other and the next minute they bitch about the same person they just hugged, some of them even burp and belch openly others pick their teeth, scratch their ears and are rude and vulgar. The list is endless. I have heard that men are usually the ‘crude’ and’ ill mannered ones (I have seen men do that in common areas such as travel and shopping areas etc but never at a party) and while that may be true of men (most men are indeed crude in their behavior) however it is a fact that there are some women too who are equally crude and ‘ill mannered’ and maybe even worse.

Tip: No makeup in the world can hide the ugliness of cynicism, ill manners and a negative critical spirit.

Tip: Work toward perfecting your expression poise and posture. This also means that you have to pay attention to how you feel and the way you think about yourself. When your mind is in the right place your posture, poise and expression will be a natural part of you. It will be a natural part of you if you do the needful to make it so and that without a doubt is ‘Sexy’! Key word: Self-awareness!

Tip: Just flow with the mood and forget about making an impression, don’t look at people with the purpose to get them to look at you. When you do look at others, do so because you are interested in them and not to get them interested in you! If you cannot be warm and friendly towards the people you wish to attract and if your sole desire is to get others to look at you, attract attention or whatever reason, think again. No one gets impressed by that kind of behavior, that isn’t attractive at all.

Tip: Love your body, that carries the marks and scars of all your experiences from childhood to date, and if there is any part of you that you dislike flow extra love and attention into that part of your body, love it until you feel good about it and until you accept and cherish it.

 Put together a wardrobe that is comfortable modern and chic. Make sure it works for your body type, camouflages the flaws and accentuates the assets. You have to be and feel comfortable in whatever you wear, so make comfort and a good fit a top priority. It is also important to wear garments that feel soft and silky against your skin. When you wear sensual clothes you feel sensual and that increases your sex appeal. It’s more important to feel it rather than just look it to increase your sex appeal.

 Show off your assets, for example if you have nice legs and or a nice back, beautiful eyes a dazzling smile, a beautiful bust line beautiful hands slender wrists and ankles, a sexy midriff whatever it is, feel proud about it and confidently flaunt it!

Tip: Makeup, accessories and clothes can help greatly to draw attention to your best features and downplay your flaws. Practice the art of applying makeup, keep it minimal and natural looking.

2. Feed your mind. Your mind can be the’ sexiest’ part of you if you know how to take care of it. Read, watch, and learn new things. Read articles, magazines, the newspapers read just about everything you can and make sure you read every day. Know and keep abreast of what is happening in your country and around the world, listen to the news, read and study topics that interest you, develop informed opinions and have one on matters that interest you as well as on those that don’t’ Voice them if you feel its worth your while, however its entirely up to you and you should feel no pressure to voice your opinion as long as you are aware and listening in on what is going on around you and when and if it becomes absolutely necessary that you say something you should. Keep track of the recent articles and novels out in the article stores, their Authors, Movies, Television, Plays, Operas, Fashion, and Music Theatre etc. Read on topics that don’t interest you just as you do the ones that interest you. It’s a good idea to have a fair knowledge even of things that don’t hold any interest to you. Learn new things, develop a hobby etc All in all do whatever it takes to increase your intelligence and skills.

Tip: It’s the way you think and talk and to know when to be tactful enough to let the other believe he knows more than you. This works in some ‘situations’

3. Wellbeing: Do whatever is necessary to increase your wellbeing and feel secure and loved without being dependent on anyone for feeling loved and feeling happiness in your life. And a simple yet powerful way to do that is by connecting spiritually. Connecting spiritually can mean different things to different people as we all know it could be a connection with God, the Universe, and Nature, whatever you believe in and have faith in. Increase that faith, connect with that power every single day, and know in your heart that you are loved no matter what you do or do not do. There is nothing you can do to lose that love and nothing you need to do to win it, because you are loved and cherished exactly as you are by the ‘god’ you believe in and that is one of the most important kind of love you need, to fee lovable’ or ‘adorable’ in the eyes of mere mortals in this world.

READ’ WATCH’ THINK!

 One of my great passion is Reading, as a matter of fact I am passionate about many things including Music (I am also passionate about the guitar and hope to someday learn how to play it) Movies, Travel, Good food, Fashion and a whole lot of other things. But here and now I am going to take the Opportunity to talk about the huge and powerful impact that reading articles has had on me. I read and I read anything that catches my fancy, particularly articles that I can lose myself in or articles that transport me to another time, and articles that identify with history etc.

 And When I begin I read non-stop through the night, completely lost in it and in time, and have looked out my window to see daylight! It’s a time I adore … the serenity and beauty I experience during such a moment is indescribable … Anyway now where was I? Yes the great writers with great minds the great authors! it is through these wonderful articles and great authors such as Rhonda Byrne (The Secret) Eckhart Tolle (A new Earth, The power of now) several of Paulo Coelho, Robin Sharma, Elliot Folliet (Eye of the needle, The Pillars of the earth) ‘The last lecture’ Randy Pausch to name just a few among the other great authors, that I learnt so much from. I feel so blessed and fortunate to have found these great articles and authors. The wisdom and greatness of these beautiful minds is immeasurable! It’s through their wonderful writings that I have gathered invaluable understanding on various issues and topics and one of the most intriguing has been on me power and mystery of the human mind.

 This is what I believe it might be for me! I had it the whole time and I did not even care to know I had it This good! Lost in the ‘grind’ ‘struggles’ and preoccupation with the mundane and least important superficial aspects of Our lives, most of us are ignorant about the power and beauty and the gift of our mind.

Tip: Wakeup and work on your self-awareness techniques, look inside your ‘head’ to find out what our mind can do for you. Maybe it’s a ‘gold mine’ in there.

 These articles tell me it is the greatest gift of all! And most of us go through life ignoring, and taking for granted everything we are born with including our beautiful minds. Some even abuse and push their own minds to the brink, neglect it and eventually lose it forever. Our mind and its health is the foremost and most important part of ourselves, without a normal sane mind we are nothing. So be careful be very careful how you treat your mind! Bad choices, stress, despair, hate, etc all of that does nothing but weaken this powerful gift we possess and can ruin us permanently.

 Most of us do not realize how lucky we are to have this brain and the power to think and choose. I believe that Our mind and the brains we possess is god’s creative power, God’s creative life, and therefore it is God itself. And if we abuse this gift we abuse GOD! I have not come to this conclusion because I am some ‘intellectual’ or some’ expert scientist’ or ‘researcher’ or a ‘literary expert’ hell no! I am none of that, and this is just my instinct talking to me. You see I am ‘just’ a woman! And it seems I am gifted with this ability to hear that whisper inside me (my secret adviser) that tells me things I am not usually aware of consciously. And I am told that I have this natural gift because I am a woman! And so do you and all the women on this earth. Did we not know this?

 Well we sure did, but very few of us really paid much attention to it. It has generally been written off by some as unimportant, there are some men who even Scorn and joke about it. But the worst is that most women (including me) have missed out on accepting one of the greatest powers we have been equipped with by nature. We had it the whole time and yet very few of us really know or knew how to make use of such a wonderful powerful natural gift. And now I hear and read that it’s finally being given its ‘due respect’ even in the medical field. This mysterious ability we women possess is what we call a ‘women institution’!

 And as I read I find out that the way to strengthen that special gift that nature bestowed upon us is to give our mind some calm and quite and silence every single day! Well that’s exactly what I have been doing since I learnt of it. I suggest you do the same, in fact I say you begin right now! And when you hear it talking to you pay attention to that ‘whisper’ inside and when you hear it be sure that it will always be right, it will be important and it will be good. All of us hear it from time to time and it is always situational, it pops up in our mind like a Supportive ‘best friend’. As you pay attention to its voice you will be able to recognize it when it appears and when that happens, stop and hold on to it and understand what it is saying. It works and it works every single time. (Men too have this gift even if it is not as powerful as with women).

 As I say that am still thinking, my mind a whirlwind of questions: But how do things work here? How can our thoughts do so much? They say we can create our ‘destiny’ with our thoughts and we attract many things in our lives with our thoughts. ‘The law of attraction’! The ‘law’ is our thought nothing complicated there now is it? So to then what is it that can make this happen? Is it some sort of ‘energy’ that can make things happens? Is this really true? I continue reading and find out that it is and that our ‘mind’ and the way we think is the key to creating everything we want. It’s amazing for me to learn this … Then I look back into my life and it sort of makes sense. This works for me and it does so because now I believe in it a 100% and I want it to work for me and I leave no room for doubts to weaken my belief.

Tip: When your mind and soul and body is ‘centered’ whatever you believe is positive and it comes true!

 Now that I understand this somewhat and there is lots more to learn, I make it a point to fill my mind with positive thoughts and love, and I nurture it every day. I want things in my life that are for me (I want what is mine) and I usually get what I want and if I cannot get it or cannot find it I don’t want it anymore! It’s great to be able to let. go of things we can’t get and know that it usually is because there is something much better in store for us. I don’t expect to be happy 24/7 and I don’t pretend that negative thoughts or sad thoughts don’t enter my mind, of course they do and I am prepared for those moments and accept them, because it is normal to have all those feelings, thoughts, worries and emotions, tears etc.

 Every normal human being experiences such emotions in a normal way that is what makes us normal people. Its how we deal with it that makes the difference. The difference in my life now is that I know what to do with them and how to face them, understand what they are and where they come from. Now I know how to challenge them, analyze them and finally dismiss them. Before I used to dwell on things for too long now I don’t, I face it, decide what to do with it, do what has to be done, accept my own hand in it if that is the case, accept it if I am wrong, do what I believe I should do according to my conscience and then I dump it out of my life forever. This is one of the ways to find peace and stay on top of things, or ‘ride’ the wave when it threatens to knock you down as some would like to call it.

 Every day I take a break from whatever I am doing, and go some place quite. I love to spend that time alone by myself and I have discovered that it is this ‘alone’ time that I cherish and look forward to every single day. It’s my time! I don’t do anything in particular, I don’t force myself to ‘meditate’ or anything like that, If I feel like giving it a try I do so, if I don’t feel like ‘meditating’ I just don’t, and focus on something else whatever I want to, for example I may design an outfit or paint (not good at it but I try any way) write my thoughts down or dabble with an outline of a novel I am toying with since, (I may just be able to write that story some day).

 Or I read, try out new clothes, make a new shopping list and plan a trip, think happy thought … or just close my eyes and listen to music and sometimes try to play my guitar (all wrong cords yet) as I listen to the tunes yes I have recently picked up the guitar I have always loved the guitar and secretly wished I could play it, and never had the time but finally now I am giving it a try! Ah music ‘the language of the universe’ it’s divine! I am at peace just doing this or nothing. And should a negative thought threaten to spoil this time I know exactly how to take the ‘bull by the horn’ gently and replace it with a positive and hopeful one. I just let myself flow with the moment without any pressure to do this or that. But this is just for me and myself and I do not allow or share this time with anyone else. This is my way to ‘recharge’ and rejuvenate my soul!

 Doing this has filled my life with so much beauty and strength. You should try it too. All you need to do is be alone and be quite that’s all you have to give your mind, ‘silence ‘ pure and calm! To let it guide you on in whatever it is you need guidance in and to allow your inner voice, speak to you (that good old intuition) and let hope, faith and passion about yourself and your life get you moving forward. It is this ‘alone quite’ time that enables me to hear the music that silence stirs in my heart. This is one of my topmost beauty secret. It is in these precious quite moments that I have found many answers to my questions and sometimes in the most unexpected ways. These things are so wonderfully mysterious and yet so real. It is during one such quite silent moment that I found courage and enthusiasm to do what I secretly believed for a while I could but never dare give it a try.

Tip:" Silence’ rejuvenates our spirit, our mind and our body! Silence is power! Just imagine what that power could do to your appearance as well. Try it you got nothing to loose but a lot to gain.

 In ‘grooming and poise’ seminars that I have attended one of the topics was the importance to learn the art of conversation. That’s all good but I believe that it’s not only important to hold a conversation confidently it is equally important to know how to be calmly and confidently silent! To be able to stay silent and be able to just listen without feeling any pressure to talk is a great ability to acquire. I love to do this, and it works for me every time.

Tip: You should try it. ‘Silence’ is an invaluable ‘beauty treatment’ too! People ask me often what is the secret of my ‘smooth glory skin’ and it always feels nice to hear that question. I cannot stop smiling when people ask me that, because the truth is that there is no secret potion or cream that I use, I just do the normal wash tone and protect routine, eat a healthy diet, have healthy habits, sleep well (I love to sleep a lot!) etc and the only other thing that I do is love myself unconditionally and do what I got to do, am fearless and I am satisfied in my life. I try to reduce stress and make sure I have lots of comforts in my life.

 I do still however make huge blunders and as usual when I do that I am the first one to acknowledge them. I try to correct myself or undo wrongs if any and then move on, no not just move on I try to move on up. I have no doubt that my mind is my most important asset. It’s the way I think and feel and it’s the simplicity of my compassionate loving heart my helpful qualities that holds the key. It’s also my capacity to stand up for what is right and am intolerant of hypocrites and cruelty to any living being and I will never bend over backwards for people to like me. I think it is very important to develop a strong sense of what is right and wrong and be tolerant of normal human frailties and at the same time you must be confident about your own beliefs. I am not perfect and I will never be, but I love myself and I have wonderful people in my life who care about me a 100% and add to my sense of self value, love and respect.

Tip: When you make a mistake or a blunder and you lose something because of the blunder, make sure you don’t lose the lesson!

 I have discovered and I know for a fact that my ‘best friend’ is my own mind. I am never lonely even if and when I am alone. I enjoy my own company and love every minute I can get to be by myself, in fact I seek and arrange these alone moments and love every minute of it. I only wish I knew all this then what I know now!

 Most of us are incapable of being by ourselves and that is where (sometimes) our worst problems begin. We end up letting in undeserving people in our lives because of our inability to be alone, by ourselves for long. I know now how important it is to be careful with whom we associate and allow in our lives. What is absolutely required is some alone time and the capacity to just be with yourself until you decide you. are ready to share your time with others.

Tip: Give your beautiful mind some quite silent time and nurture it lovingly every single day! Our mind needs silence and quite just as our body needs sleep.

Tip: Nothing can harm our life more than those outsiders (literally outsiders) with a motive who push themselves into our lives in disguise of ‘friendship’. They manipulatively try to gain our trust and friendship and then on the first opportunity they betray us. And these ‘friends’ can sometimes even be those we have known for a long time. There are all sorts of people around us good bad and ugly and we are all aware of it and yet we still continue to make bad choices.

 ’Old friends are important’ I have heard that often and I know it is true in most of the cases but sometimes it isn’t (Real friends never have a motive) surely we need people in our lives but we have to choose and pick very carefully whoever we allow into our lives or befriend. People will be people and there will be upsets as well as a lot of happiness to share with good friends, as long as it doesn’t impact out lives negatively it is acceptable. We should allow good normal well meaning people in our lives but to identify these you have to be on top of things one step ahead of the other person! If we are not careful and allow the wrong people to get into our lives they will eventually cause. us damage, (no matter how long it takes to come to the fore) and life may never be the same again. There are so many cases where people have been ruined by ‘outsiders’ who ‘pile’ onto their lives and bring in betrayals, negativity, bad habits, diseases and unimaginable devastation. One simple word to describe it is ‘hell’.

Tip: Be very careful, and choose your friends and the people you associate with wisely. We are ‘judged by the friends we keep’.

Tip: We can protect ourselves from bad company by strengthening our own selves first and foremost, having our ‘head on our shoulders’ and having our values principles and boundaries firmly in place. No one can influence a strong self-respecting self-loving mind! You have to come from a position of strength in everything you choose to do in ‘Your life.

 Top most beauty secret: Self Love, the ability to enjoy your own company and being able to appreciate the simplest things in life, to feel a gratitude for everything you already have been blessed with which includes your world, yourself, your life, your health, your immediate family and loved ones.

Tip: Take time off to be silent and ‘quite’ everyday. If you are in a dilemma or distress or any sort of confusion, just stop take a break, step back and allow yourself to be quite and silent. Let the stillness you feel in your mind guide you through your life, in difficult times and good times. Do this and see the ‘magic’ begin in your life. ‘Silent’ is often the best way to be because in this silence you will find answers, it will direct you toward the right solutions and measures you should take in good times as well as in bad times.

 There are two types of ‘silence’ a positive one and there is a negative one. The positive silence is what is used to create, nourish, nurture, improve, build, help, bond and grow more happiness in our life and in the lives of others while the negative silence is used to humiliate others, harm, insult, disrespect, damage and to convey hate, disdain and disregard . Be careful how you use ‘silence’ because in the end it all comes back to us and that’s guaranteed.

 We often hear this ‘don’t let your heart rule your head’ but according to my experience I don’t thing that’s a good thing and I will say you should always listen to your heart! Our heart never lies and it will direct you to work from a position of compassion, weigh it with the decision of your mind and it will be right! I believe our mind and our heart work best when they work together. They are partners, and we should allow the two to consult each other in every sphere of our life. If you have a good mind you will also have a great loving big heart. And when that is so you know you are doing just right. A certain ease and independence will spring into your life when you allow your mind to listen to your heart and vice versa! Try it sometimes and see if it works for you, it usually does! According to me this is what it means to be ‘centered.

 I totally dislike people who Scorn compassion and humanity in decision making. Whoever wants to be that way should become a robot! And get the hell out of this world and live on Mars! These are the sort of people I consider ludicrous and deserve to be scorned and laughed at.

 A person who wants to be everybody’s friend ends up not having a single friend!

Tip: Read up on articles and the great authors I mentioned above and others that you prefer. Search your library article store for good articles on topics that interest you. It could change your life in many positive beautiful ways.

Tip: Be fair minded towards your fellow being whether friend Or foe, treat everyone with equal consideration and sensitivity, and when or if you have done wrong Or committed a mistake or hurt Someone take immediate remedial steps and correct your wrongs. Do not let inconsequential disagreements, or upsets damage your relationship with good people who are well meaning, who care or cared about you. We need good people in our lives. Thank your God for the gift of good people in your life just as you thank god for everything else in your life that you treasure and are grateful for.

Tip: Love the people who treat you right and forget the ones who don’t.

 When you know you can count on yourself to do the right thing for your fellow human being and yourself you will feel good about yourself. You will experience a calm serene self assured confidence and that in return will make you more appealing to others and that as you know adds to your ‘magnetism’ A confident happy successful normal woman has an unmistakable aura about her that spells ‘sexy"! And that is what turns heads. It’s a kind of sexy appeal and calm confidence that no ‘health spa’ jewelry or designer clothes alone can impart.

 The connection between personal boundaries and sex appeal! An abused exploited unhappy woman cannot be, feel or look sexy!

PERSONAL BOUNDARIES:

 I suggest you zero in On the topic ‘personal boundaries’ one more time. I don’t want to bore you with this but this stuff is important

 We cannot emphasize enough the importance of identifying and setting our personal boundaries firmly in place. Let’s go through it one more time….

 Women know this An unhappy abused woman whose self esteem is broken by constant abuse and ridicule cannot look sexy or feel sexy? Whatever the reason it may be that you have landed yourself in a mess (if you have) where you are being abused, you need to help yourself and take your situation very seriously and put a stop to it as soon as possible. It is up to you and only you! Refuse to accept or tolerate any sort of abuse because nothing is more damaging to a woman’s self esteem. So get on there very coverage and say no. No more disrespect and no more abuse. Walk out and away from anyone and everyone who does not treat you right.

 In your life there will be people around, who will never see your worth or value you as much as you deserve to be no matter how wonderful you are. You will never be good enough for them. These things happen when you are surrounded by self-centered unhappy dissatisfied unhealthy human beings. And it can happen to the very best of us without us doing anything to deserve such people in our lives. And here is what you should do if you ever find out that it is happening to you: Weed out ‘troublesome’ people be they relatives or friends and proceed decisively and be firm about it. Do not allow them free rein in your life, they will cause you nothing but pain and drain your life of everything that you built and cherished in your life. Therefore keep such people away from you and from your loved ones.

 People worth keeping in our lives are those who care about us. You will know who they are. Besides our parents there are others too who value us, encourage and support us in everything we want to do in their own way. They feel sad when we are sad and will never be unfeeling when they know we are hurting or in pain. They care for our feelings as much as they care for themselves. They actually love and like us as if we are their own. You will know who they are in your life because you will always feel happy when they are around you.

Tip: Looking ‘Sexy’ and Beautiful is not just about your appearance, posture or clothes you wear. Being sexy and having a great sex appeal is also about your state of mind your belief in your self. If you believe you are sexy, then you are and will appear so. When you believe this your attitude and your behavior will say ‘sexy’. Be aware that all of this is interlinked. You cannot have a great state of mind if you are being treated badly or disrespected by the people in your life and by your own self! Get working on the root cause of the position you find yourself in your life. If it’s to your satisfaction well that’s a good thing. Let’s move forward, but if its not, you know what to do.

 If your life is unhappy filled with problems and lacking in any area which preoccupies your mind with worries and struggles and there is abuse in your life and your self esteem is destroyed by belittlement and ridicule, financial insecurities, ill health etc you cannot really be beautiful and ‘sexy’ I don’t believe such a woman can have any ‘Attitude’ or ‘Aura’?! Such a person lives in a mess, her spirit is broken her heart is broken and in some cases even her bones are broken. If you need help in any area of your life, do not be afraid to ask for help.

 Do not ignore these sorts of things, hoping things will change on their own they wont unless you take the responsibility for your own happiness; you will never come out of it and will continue being abused in some way or the other. It will do irreparable damage to your life and yourself and that’s a guarantee! Both Men and woman are at a risk of being abused and their self-esteem shattered even by the people they care about or have allowed into their lives if they delay nipping abuse in the bud.

 The best of the best of us can be and are complacent and irresponsible in our choices which can harm us. Our personal boundaries are the only things that can protect us from hurtful experiences to a great extend.

Tip: Sometimes Our hard and hurtful experiences can teach us important lessons and make us wiser. It reminds me of this saying ‘hotter the fire stronger the steel’ Make sure you can rise above it and look at it as adventure that added ‘spice’ to your life. You should be able to count on yourself to Come out of these things stronger and better. Don’t give up on yourself ever no matter how many times you goof up!

Tip: Find reasons to be happy. There are countless reasons for all of us to be happy. Some of us are happy with so little, but there are others who are never happy or satisfied. They look, they Search and sadly they never find it. Why? Because they are looking in the wrong places, they are greedy, materialistic and selfish. They are looking for it in others, and no one can make another happy. Our happiness is our own responsibility and it begins with us, it begins in our head, in our heart, in our life, in Our character, principles and values .And here is how Our ‘personal boundaries’ open up ways for us to hold on to lasting happiness, which we find within our hearts. So yes personal boundaries are the prerequisites to Our quest for lasting happiness and peace and beauty in Our lives.

Tip: When anyone abuses you or hurts you, it not only affects you, it affects the ones who love you too. When you are hurt and or abused it hurts all those who love and respect you. Do not allow anyone to cross your boundaries for your own sake and for the sake of the people who love and respect you and vice versa.

Tip: Get committed to making your life beautiful first and then seek external beauty! Your boundaries help you achieve this, but you must honor and stay committed to them. Take responsibility for your actions, respect yourself and respect others. No human being has to do ‘ this Or that’ to earn respect from others the fact that we are normal good human beings is all that is required to respect and be respected. Every single one of us earns respect simply by the fact that we are human! Disputes, differences, misunderstandings etc need never affect our basic respect for each other. Respect and love is the foundation for everything in Our life and most of us already know this. Practice it, it will add greatly to your personal appeal

The Art Of Flirting: What is this really? Is it a sexual advance or some sort of sexual communication? Just what the heck is it?

 Well it’s none of that. According to my experience it is all about having fun and its just a different way we take to a person we find a attractive! It indicates sexy! Comfortable interested.

 We cannot underestimate the power of ‘flirting’ and so it is an important topic on its own. ‘Flirting’ is an ‘art’ and deserves a whole article dedicated to it, but since we are not here to discuss this’ Art’ I will briefly mention the basics on flirting, and that should suffice to see you through!

Tip: Get the’ basics’ right in every area of this makeover which includes ‘flirting’. It’s easy to build on it as you go on. ‘Flirting’ is being fun and playful naturally with the opposite sex and having a good time without offending anyone. It’s a natural inborn instinct with most human being.

 Flirting is sexy and its fun if done in a classy elegant way. There are some who go overboard and come across as sleazy and cheap, and ‘flirting need not ever be that! As I mentioned earlier ‘flirting is not a sexual advance and should never ever be mistaken for that sort of a thing. If everything about you is classy you will also flirt in a classy way. It will come naturally to you. Flirting just like everything has a time and place for it.

 There are countless articles written on the ‘art of flirting’ which tell you on ways to flirt with the object of your desire, or someone you find attractive etc and you can find such articles in your article store if you look.

 However as far as I know about flirting, I believe it is a natural inborn thing and it is for pure fun. Some of us are natural flirts and some aren’t, but maybe the articles that claim to teach people to ‘flirt’ can help to some extent otherwise they would not have been written. Give it a look up! I believe if your are beautiful! attractive, have a healthy mind and body, are successful, healthy and confident and are generally content with life, then flirting comes naturally when you run into someone who catches your ‘fancy’.

 It can be a subtle innocent ‘sexy’ game between men and women. Sometimes it can attract people to one another into friendships and other times can end up in a good relationship or maybe not and that’s how it is supposed to be. Flirting is fun when it is reciprocated in good spirit and when you are completely uncontrived about the outcome. There are many ways of flirting. Any woman who is vulgar in her approach during her social interactions uses cheap body language and crass loud language in the name of flirting, is nothing but an embarrassment to her own self and isn’t going to attract any special men, the type of men that special women like us want. Men and women have completely different approaches to flirting.

 However flashy vulgar’ women also attract men, and the men they attract are equally ‘vulgar and flashy’. It is up to each one to decide what kind of Men I Women they enjoy flirting with or want to attract, it’s a personal need or decision or whatever one may like to call it. ‘Live and let live’ we are not here to judge anyone for their choices. But this much I would like to warn you though If you want to attract an’ amazing’ man you got to be ‘amazing’ yourself!

Tip: The more self confident happy and naturally ‘full of fun’ you are the easier it is to flirt’. Work on your Self-confidence and personal appeal and flirting will be easy and fun. But if you are self-conscious you are not going to be able to flirt’ even to save your life!

Tip: Over confidence kills sex appeal!

Tip; A slight natural shy self-consciousness is ok and even attractive! But not the extremes in shyness and self-consciousness that is not ok that can be ‘crippling’ I believe best way to approach this is to be yourself.

 Top most tip: Approach flirting’ with detached and reckless abandon (a bit ‘crazy funny’ works like magic!) don’t bother at all about the outcome. Simple do so to have fun. Appear approachable, warm, friendly and as if you are having a great time when you socialize (you actually will begin to have a great time) this happy fun atmosphere allows the opposite sex to feel confident to approach and flirt with you. Show a casual tiny interest and remain completely un contrived while you continue having lots of fun. That’s ‘sexy’ in any human being be it male or female! But make Sure this comes naturally to you, anything forced and artificial is not sexy!

 My Flirting secret: eye contact If I find a man really attractive I will flirt with him this is what I do: I will look at him, lock eyes with him and hold my gaze for a second or two, smile casually sometimes other times I don’t and then I turn away! From there on I allow the man to take the lead . … outrageous ! Humor is Key’ The other is touch (maybe a warm handshake) make eye contact and smile. Just have some fun.
 

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